By Jessica Jaithoo
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May 5, 2026
Author: Nidhi Gandhi , 2026 Social Media Committee Volunteer Motherhood is often described as the world’s most demanding job, yet it rarely comes with a job description, a performance review, or a manual. It is a profound and often relentless act of stewardship that asks us to be an anchor, a strategist, and a source of support, sometimes all at once. For modern HR executives, this reality carries added complexity. Our professional lives are spent navigating organizational health, talent development, and culture. We shape workplace policies, advocate for employee well‑being, and bring the people perspective to the leadership table. When we step into the dual role of executive and mother, we aren’t simply balancing two lives; we are bringing together two complementary skill sets. As Deni Ruiz, Executive Director of People and Culture at Keyano College, explains: “In my role, I balance strategy with humanity, supporting leaders and employees, navigating change and complexity, and making tough decisions when needed. I am supported by an amazing team of professionals who care deeply for our colleagues, the College, and the community.” Being both an executive and a mother means showing up focused in the boardroom while also being a safe harbor at home. It requires constant recalibration and a willingness to redefine what success looks like at different stages of life. It also reinforces an important truth: empathy is not just a personal quality, it is a leadership asset. When we asked Deni how she transitions from mom mode to executive mode, she shared: “It’s less of a flip of a switch and more of a recalibration. I go from solving activities, snack logistics, and figuring out the root cause of meltdowns, to solving organizational challenges and understanding what motivates and engages people in the workplace. But at the core, both roles are about supporting people and making good, informed decisions, just at different complexity levels. A deep breath, a chai latte, and I’m in an executive mode. What I find a bit more challenging is transitioning back to ‘mom mode’ at the end of a long, busy day.” In this conversation, we look beyond titles to discuss the realities of nurturing a high‑level career while raising the next generation. Whether you are climbing the ladder, building a team, or navigating your own career path, this dialogue offers both reflection and reassurance that your path can evolve, and that is okay. How has motherhood shaped your approach to HR policies? Does it change how you view things like flexible work, benefits, or performance management? Motherhood has deepened my understanding of how policies land in real life. It’s made me more attuned to what employees are balancing outside of work, including growing demands related to child care, elder care, and mental health. That perspective has strengthened my support for flexible and inclusive workplaces, not as perks, but as tools for retention, productivity, and respect. Being a mom hasn’t lowered performance expectations; it has clarified how we enable people to meet them by recognizing the realities that shape today’s workforce and equipping leaders to respond thoughtfully. What is the most rewarding “full circle” moment you’ve had where your professional role and motherhood intersected? There are moments when I’m coaching my kids on family values, goal setting, or how to navigate conflict with their sibling, and other moments when I’m coaching leaders through difficult workplace conversations or career development decisions. I’ve realized I draw on the same patience, clarity, and empathy in both settings. Seeing those conversations handled well, and knowing they positively affect someone’s experience at work, feels like a true intersection of both roles. Just as each child is different, even within the same family, employees experience work differently. Understanding those realities helps build alignment and trust. What advice would you give to a mid ‑ career HR professional who is hesitant to pursue an executive role because they fear it will compromise their family life? It’s a valid concern. Executive roles come with more responsibility and mental load, but they also offer greater autonomy to shape how and when you work. The key is being intentional. Be clear on your non‑negotiables, choose organizations whose values align with yours, and remember that strong leadership includes modeling sustainable ways of working, not constant availability. If you could give a Mother’s Day gift to working moms, aside from a day off, what would it be? I’d give them the freedom to be genuine and true flexibility, the kind that is trusted, consistent, and free from career trade‑offs. When people don’t have to choose between being present at home and being seen as committed at work, that’s where working moms can truly thrive. The idea of perfect work‑life balance is overrated. Priorities shift over time, and only you and your family know what the right combination looks like in any given season. Deni’s journey reminds us that senior leadership and motherhood are not competing forces to be managed, but complementary roles that strengthen one another. The empathy cultivated at home makes us better leaders, just as strategic thinking at work helps us build stronger foundations for our families. As we celebrate Mother’s Day, let this conversation prompt reflection. You do not have to choose between being a successful professional and a present, nurturing parent. You can be both, and you can lead through both.